"Grief, a Silent Teacher

 "Grief, a Silent Teacher

In this era of life,

the most impactful thing that affects a person is grief, which never disappears in any form. It is said that if something cannot kill a person, it strengthens them by leaving a lasting impact, and the same applies to grief. Many of us have faced or witnessed such qualities in life, such as the separation of a loved one, battling a life-threatening illness like cancer, experiencing loneliness in the face of divorce, unemployment, or other challenging situations. These experiences lead individuals to stress, bitterness, depression, and persistent unrest.

A fundamental law of nature is that it does not burden anyone beyond their capacity. The same principle applies to emotions like grief and challenges, which become a part of life for a specific period but, after completing their cycle, leave behind positive effects that were not part of a person's existence before. In ordinary circumstances, people often fail to recognize the strength within them, which God has endowed to endure and bear.

Where our bodies demand food, drink, and sleep, similarly, our soul and mind also seek a higher purpose, and sometimes, nature introduces grief to make us feel it. When life is moving smoothly in full swing, we often stop questioning our existence. On the contrary, in times of adversity or grief, we contemplate our mental state and begin to observe things more deeply. Although the experience of joy connects us limitlessly, grief reminds us of our limitations.

In recent years, psychologists have become aware of a phenomenon called "Post Traumatic Growth." This term was coined by psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun, who interviewed many individuals who had gone through experiences such as loss, severe illness (like cancer), divorce, or near-death situations.

In the initial stages, everyone experienced the dark night of the soul, where every aspect of life seemed purposeless. Constantly thinking about a distressing event, repeatedly going over thoughts and feelings, is a natural process that everyone went through. Afterward, they embarked on a spiritual journey in search of self, asking themselves questions and exploring new ethical and spiritual qualities that were not part of their lives before. Some found meaning and purpose in life, others witnessed helplessness within themselves, and many began to view relationships with distant loved ones from a new perspective. Forgiveness became easier for them, and above all, they found more contentment, tranquility, and a new path, where they became grateful for small things.

Life brings trials

and tribulations that often repeat themselves. Great spiritual leaders and prophets also underwent trials. Sometimes, it becomes necessary for a person to go through the stages of testing and challenges for the strengthening of their character. However, it does not mean that we willingly invite challenges or start searching for them with an understanding of their significance. If, God forbid, these enter our lives, we should be aware that there is also hidden goodness along with the negative aspects.

Recently, experts in psychology have become familiar with a trend known as 'Post Traumatic Growth.' This term was introduced by psychologists Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun, who conducted interviews with many people who had gone through experiences such as mourning, severe illnesses (such as cancer), divorce, or being deprived of employment. In the initial stages, everyone experienced the dark night of the soul, where every aspect of life seemed purposeless. Constantly thinking about a distressing event, repeatedly going over thoughts and feelings, is a natural process that everyone went through. Afterward, they embarked on a spiritual journey in search of self, asking themselves questions and exploring new ethical and spiritual qualities that were not part of their lives before. Some found meaning and purpose in life, others witnessed helplessness within themselves, and many began to view relationships with distant loved ones from a new perspective. Forgiveness became easier for them, and above all, they found more contentment, tranquility, and a new path, where they became grateful for small things.

Life brings trials and tribulations that often repeat themselves. Great spiritual leaders and prophets also underwent trials. Sometimes, it becomes necessary for a person to go through the stages of testing and challenges for the strengthening of their character. However, it does not mean that we willingly invite challenges or start searching for them with an understanding of their significance. If, God forbid, these enter our lives, we should be aware that there is also hidden goodness along with the negative aspects."